OW Conversations

Posted by on Aug 1, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

It has been suggested that the title “Six Discussions” was problematic, particularly since Ordain Women does not seek members or followers. Rather, it provides a space where Mormons can openly speak about their concerns about gender inequality and hope that the prophet and apostles pray about women’s ordination. The decision to assemble faithful yet thought-provoking discussions was about conversation, not conversion. Since Ordain Women tries to be responsive to legitimate concerns, we have retitled them “Conversations,” and we’ll soon add a seventh compiled by and specifically geared toward men who also hope for the ordination of women. The previous conversations have been updated to reflect these changes.

Kate Kelly’s Appeal to Her Stake President

Posted by on Jul 23, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

The links below are to the materials that Kate Kelly has submitted to her Stake President for her appeal of her excommunication on June 23. More than 1000 letters of support were also included in the appeal, but are not included here for privacy reasons.

We believe that our church leaders are called of God and will do the right thing. We will continue the conversation about the role of women in the LDS Church.

Kate Kelly Letter of Appeal

Kate Kelly_Letter of Support_Neil Ransom

Kate Kelly_ Statement in Support of Appeal _Nadine Hansen

 

Fig Leaves & Choosing the Path of Authenticity

Posted by on Jul 22, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

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I wrote this piece back in March for the Exponent II called “Fig Leaves & Choosing the Path of Authenticity.” The original Woman’s Exponent was a periodical published from 1872 until 1914 in Salt Lake City. Its purpose was to uplift and strengthen Mormon Women. The Exponent II revived that wonderful tradition 40 years ago.

The Exponent II’s most recent issue covers varied perspectives on female ordination and priesthood. It is excellent. You can order an online subscription here to access the entire, wonderful publication. It covers many voices, and nuanced perspectives.

Carry on!

Posted by on Jul 8, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

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Joy and Sorrow

By Kate Kelly

Like so many of you, I have been moving forward these past two weeks with a heaviness in my heart. I have been focusing on positive self-care. I have made it a point to spend time with family, go on many bike rides, and surround myself with true and stalwart friends. Amid the sadness and pain I have experienced, I’ve been reminding myself of the beauty and magic of life, and all that is wonderful on this earth. There is so much to be joyful and hopeful about. I have experienced what many who experience grief do: sorrow and loss, but also rebirth and a new-found wonder.

Let me be perfectly clear: what happened to me was wrong. It was abusive. It was unfair. It was unacceptable.

But, my reaction is mine to choose. I choose to move forward with grace in the face of brutality, unkindness and the sometimes hideous reaction of human beings to someone else’s tragedy.

I choose joy. I choose passion. I choose the delicious freedom of authenticity.

Points of clarification

There have been so, so many of you who have been with me on this journey. So many of you are fighting online battles in my defense, with those who are reticent to exercise compassion. To you I want to offer some additional information that may help clarify events.

I did not choose to “go public” with my church discipline:

I requested that information about my disciplinary process be kept in strict confidentiality. On May 6 I received an email from my Stake President, Scott Wheatley, that said, “because you have carried your campaign for ordination far beyond the boundaries of our Stake, and have previously told the media and the public that you are a member in good standing, it may be necessary at some point in the future to correct the public record regarding your standing in the Church. For these reasons, I cannot agree to the request in your email for absolute confidentiality.”

Hence, I felt I only had control of how the information about me was conveyed, and the power to tell my story myself, not whether or not it would be made public.

The Bishop who excommunicated me, Mark Harrison, did not initiate the disciplinary process against me or give me any direct council:

December 12, 2013 I met with President Wheatley at his request. President Wheatley emailed me before the meeting and said, “I would like to discuss your efforts regarding Ordain Women and hope to have Bishop Harrison join us.” [emphasis added] Bishop Harrison accepted his invitation to attended the meeting, but did not conduct or chime in much at all. The meeting was conducted by President Wheatley and he largely dominated the conversation. I blogged about the meeting here in December. My take-away from that meeting was that I was not at risk for discipline.

May 5, 2014 was the only other meeting I had with my leaders regarding Ordain Women. I was shocked when President Wheatley requested the May 5th meeting, I told him that I was in the process of moving out of state, as I mentioned to him in December, and was no longer able to meet with him. President Wheatley insisted I meet with him in an email saying he could meet, “anytime, day or night.” He also requested a “move restriction” be placed on my records in order to convey to me I had no choice but to meet with them, despite the move. I was stunned at the sudden urgency of a meeting as I was literally on my way out the door. However, I met with him, under duress, during that stressful time of selling all of my belongings and packing up my apartment, hoping to get the newly placed “move restriction” taken off so I could move on in peace.

Bishop Harrison did not attend the May 5th meeting. President Wheatley specifically said in the May 5th meeting he had no intention of convening a council in absentia. He made no indication that formal discipline was imminent.

There was no additional follow-up from Bishop Harrison regarding either of those meetings in person, over the phone, via email or otherwise until I received the notice that he was convening a disciplinary council on June 8, weeks after I had moved out of his ward.

In fact, just days before our move my husband and I saw Bishop Harrison and his wife at a ward member’s home. He wished us luck on our journey to Kenya and bid us farewell. There was no mention of any pending meeting, disciplinary or otherwise by him. My impression was that we left on good terms and would not hear from him again. He had never reached out to me directly before, despite several emails I sent him requesting he come to me for information on Ordain Women if he was ever troubled by my involvement.

Aside from quietly attending the December meeting President Wheatley convened, Bishop Harrison never came to me to engage in any conversation about Ordain Women with me directly.

I am not encouraging people to leave the church:

I encourage everyone to find a safe space where they can be their authentic selves and live with integrity. If you feel emotionally capable of staying in the church, I encourage you to stay. However, as active members of the church who see problems with gender inequality, I encourage you to continue to raise questions about women in the church. People of conscience should raise their voices. If you stay, speak up.

It’s not too late.

I am appealing the decision to excommunicate me and it is not too late for the leaders involved to do the right thing. In a recent talk Elder Holland said, “however late you think you are, however many chances you think you have missed, however many mistakes you feel you have made … It is never too late…”

In fact, it’s not too late for the church to do the right thing for Margaret and Lavina and all of the others who have been harshly punished for speaking out in favor of equality in the church. Just as the church teaches individual church members to correct past mistakes, the institution can also rectify old wrongs and heal old wounds. The Church has shown some signs that it is willing to make amends and correct errors of the past.

In fact, it wasn’t even too late for Helmuth Hübener, a young Mormon of extraordinary courage who was summarily executed for standing up to the third Reich in Nazi Germany. Ten days after his arrest by the Gestapo, Helmuth was excommunicated by his local church leaders in absentia. He spoke of his excommunication as more painful than his wrongful conviction by the Nazis. The day he was to be executed, Helmuth wrote in a letter to a fellow branch member: “I know that God lives and He will be the Just Judge in this matter… I look forward to seeing you in a better world!” However, even in Helmuth’s case it was not too late for the Church to do the right thing. After the war was over, he was posthumously reinstated in the LDS Church and had his ordinances restored. His records now indicate he was excommunicated “by mistake.”

One of the most beautiful and comforting things I learned as a young Mormon girl is that repentance is real. We can always forgive, forget and move on from past error or pain. In my personal case, and in the cases of so many others, it is not “everlastingly too late.” I have two levels of appeal, which I intend to pursue. One to President Wheatley, my initial accuser. If unsuccessful, I will appeal to the First Presidency of the Church, as is my right.

Regardless of the outcome of my appeal, my heart will go on beating and I will move forward, confident that I did the right thing. I spoke the truth, with love. I acted with integrity, as I was taught in Young Women. I stood together with my sisters.

We have the choice to let fear of punishment silence us. Let’s choose the courage of our pioneer foremothers over fear. Let’s choose to step into the light and speak boldly instead of hiding in the shadows. Let’s choose to speak up now, instead of accepting a deferred dream for our daughters.

I do not know what the future holds for me, but can assure you of one thing going forward: firm as the mountains around us, Ordain Women will carry on!

 

 

Ordain Women Responds to the First Presidency Statement

Posted by on Jun 29, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

We sustain the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve Apostles and are grateful to receive guidance from our leaders. We pray that they will continue to respond directly to the needs and desires of Church members and take their concerns and questions to God. The statement describes current church policy on priesthood, in which “only men are ordained to serve in priesthood offices.” There is no mention of why women cannot be ordained or that they will not be in the future. We continue in the sincere hope that our leaders will prayerfully bring this question before the Lord.

We also acknowledge that the statement publicly discloses the official definition of apostasy from Church Handbook of Instructions Volume 1, a volume of church policy that is available to thousands of male leaders but restricted to only nine women in the Church. We affirm that we are not acting in opposition to the prophet or the Church, have not taught false doctrine and do not meet any definition of apostasy.

Ordain Women Executive Board:

April Bennett

Chelsea Strayer

Debra Jenson

Hannah Wheelwright

Heather Beal

Kate Kelly

Lorie Winder

Nancy Ross

 

Reaction to Kate Kelly’s Excommunication

Posted by on Jun 23, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

Reaction to Kate Kelly’s Excommunication

The verdict has been handed down in the disciplinary trial of Kate Kelly, one of the founders of the group Ordain Women. Today, Kelly’s former ecclesiastical leader in Virginia, Bishop Mark Harrison, contacted Kelly by email to inform her that the all-male panel of judges who tried her in absentia on Sunday, June 22nd, has convicted her on the charge of apostasy and has decided to excommunicate her, which is the most serious punishment that can be levied by a Church court. Bishop Harrison explained the consequences of excommunication and the conditions he has imposed upon Kelly, in order for her to be considered worthy of future re-baptism into the Church:

” . . . our determination is that you be excommunicated for conduct contrary to the laws and order of the Church. This means that you may not wear temple garments or contribute tithes and offerings. You may not take the sacrament, hold a Church calling, give a talk in Church, offer a public prayer in behalf of the class or congregation in a Church meeting, or vote in the sustaining of Church officers. These conditions almost always last at least one year. If you show true repentance and satisfy the conditions imposed below while you are no longer a member, you may be readmitted by baptism and confirmation.

“In order to be considered for readmission to the Church, you will need to demonstrate over a period of time that you have stopped teachings and actions that undermine the Church, its leaders, and the doctrine of the priesthood. You must be truthful in your communications with others regarding matters that involve your priesthood leaders, including the administration of Church discipline, and you must stop trying to gain a following for yourself or your cause and taking actions that could lead others away from the Church.”

Kelly says, “The decision to force me outside my congregation and community is exceptionally painful. Today is a tragic day for my family and me as we process the many ways this will impact us, both in this life and in the eternities. I love the gospel and the courage of its people. Don’t leave. Stay, and make things better.”

Debra Jenson of Ordain Women said, “We are deeply saddened by this news. As Mormons we recognize the gravity of this action. We follow the directive of Mosiah 18:9 and will mourn with our sister as she mourns. We regret that there is no way to predict how local leaders will react to conversations about gender inequality in the Church—-many have been supportive in these discussions, others have not. Ordain Women will continue.”

Letters in support of Kate Kelly and Ordain Women, Part 4

Posted by on Jun 22, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

In anticipation of Kate Kelly’s church disciplinary council, Ordain Women asked for letters of support commenting on how Ordain Women had deepened their relationship with the LDS Church, strengthened their faith and given them hope. They will be presented to Kate’s ecclesiastical leaders and Church Headquarters. Over 1,140 letters were submitted. We’re gratified by the overwhelming response and touched by the sincerity of the messages. OW will publish selected letters each day leading up to the date of the disciplinary council. 

My heart goes out to Sister Kelly. From what I know of her, it is clear that she loves the gospel and the Church. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Sister Kelly, and with the many members of the Church who care deeply about these issues.

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I am a life-long member of the Church. I have been active in the Church all my life, and have held a variety of callings. I am presently serving as a bishop. I love the gospel and I love the Church. I offer my faith and prayers in the council’s behalf, asking and believing that your hearts will be filled with love and that you will receive knowledge from the Lord concerning His will in this matter. I believe disciplinary councils are courts of love because I have presided over many of them, and love was by far the strongest feeling shared in each and every one of them. I respect the keys you hold, and I am confident that you do not take this responsibility lightly. I wish to offer two points in defense of Kate Kelly. First, her principal aim, and the stated objective of Ordain Women, is to seek to have the leaders of the Church inquire of the Lord concerning His will with respect to whether women should be ordained to the priesthood. Indeed, the Mission Statement of Ordain Women concludes with this sentence: “We sincerely ask our leaders to take this matter to the Lord in prayer.” Sister Kelly understands that this is a matter to be determined not by her, nor by any woman or man, but only by revelation from the Lord to the prophet. Second, neither the scriptures nor the doctrine of the Church define asking the Lord for help, guidance, blessings or miracles as apostasy. If asking of the Lord is not apostasy, then asking the leaders of the Church to ask of the Lord is likewise not apostasy.

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In President Wheatley’s letter to Kate Kelly dated May 22, 2014, I read that Sister Kelly must “stop trying to…lead others away from the church.” Sister Kelly has done the opposite for me—her efforts and testimony have brought me closer to Heavenly Father and to our church.

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I have always been an active, temple recommend holding member (plus a returned missionary). And even as OW launched in 2013, I had most recently finished serving as my ward’s Relief Society President. I continue to faithfully serve in my ward, and my husband is in our Bishopric. Sister Kelly’s desire to ask the Brethren to pray over women’s status in our church rings true to my soul. I am grateful to her for standing up and saying what needs to be said. I have felt the Spirit when pondering over the matters that Sister Kelly has raised, and I will be forever grateful to her for the voice and testimony that she has brought to our church.

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I pray that Sister Kelly will not be ousted from our community, as she is a sister who has brought me personally closer to Christ.

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When I first heard of Ordain Women I wasn’t sure what to make of it. Having the Priesthood is not something I have strong feelings about. However, feeling like women need more of a voice within the Church and having concerns about the obvious inequities between the opportunities men and women have to serve and participate within the Church is something I have struggled with over the years. I have mostly kept these concerns to myself, but in doing so, have at times felt isolated and alone, and like I may not belong at church. Not because I don’t have a testimony, but because I was worried that my views may not be socially or culturally acceptable to many members.

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What Ordain Women (OW) and Kate’s work have done for me, and I would venture to guess for many other women, is to provide a safe space to share our feelings, our experiences, and maybe most importantly, our desires. Having a forum where women can express the desires of their hearts, particularly when these desires are righteous desires, is not something to be feared, but something to be embraced. I find the work of OW to be faith promoting and testimony strengthening as they have been instrumental in starting important and necessary conversations (far beyond the topic of women and the priesthood) to occur, but are doing so in a respectful and thoughtful manner.

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I am an active High Priest … in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I do not know whether or when women should be ordained to the priesthood, but I think it is a critical question worth open and respectful discussion. Everything I have read about Kate Kelly’s work and that I have heard her say on several podcasts that I have listened to indicates that she is asking the question in a respectful and persistent way. God help us all if it becomes implicitly or explicitly forbidden to publicly ask questions and have discussions about these kinds of important matters.

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I believe in female ordination. I don’t believe in female ordination because Kate Kelly started a website and began publicly asking the question. I believe in female ordination because, during one of my last visits to the temple, I had a spiritual experience that confirmed my hope that our Heavenly Parents wanted more for women. That experience was one of the most potent spiritual experiences I ever had, akin to my first intimate interaction with God.

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After that experience, I had a difficult time maintaining my testimony. I was frustrated and discouraged that there was no forum for me to voice my concerns about exclusion. I felt isolated because I was not comfortable discussing my desire to have a greater role in the Church.

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One day, I listed to a podcast that led me to ordainwomen.org. I cannot describe the sense of excitement and relief that I felt when I found that forum. I suddenly found an optimism for the Church that had been absent in my heart for many years. I was elated to find a place where I could voice my questions and concerns, to know that there were others struggling with the same issues that I experienced. It rejuvenated my testimony and led me back to activity in the Church.

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I can honestly say that Kate Kelly taught me nothing that I didn’t already feel about female ordination. She voices my questions and concerns more eloquently, but she voices my concerns and questions. I participated in the October 2013 event, and none of the women that I spoke to described a “conversion” to the idea of female ordination that came from Kate Kelly. Instead, these women discussed personal, isolating, painful struggles that led them to that belief on their own.

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Kate Kelly created a forum for us to come together to ask these questions. For me, that was a heroic and inspiring act. I admire her humility and faith, and she demonstrates a thoughtfulness that I respect. Losing her as a sister because she asked the same questions I feel in my heart would be devastating to my faith and confidence in this church.

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As an individual not associated with Ordain Women and one who is neutral concerning their controversial methodology, I appreciate what the group has done by raising questions that need to be asked and answered. I value their bravery to be vocal and respectful with their concerns in an organization that allows very little space for truthful sincerity. I’ve been deeply disappointed with the Church’s PR response to the organization time and time again, including this recent decision to bring Sister Kelly to a church court. I share many of her concerns but have not been brave enough to ask as she has, knowing the consequences of such honesty that she is now facing. To know that there are others out there, braver than I, who are willing to lead has given me much hope and reason to stay in an organization which I have loved but that I see as increasingly un=Christlike in the way that members’ sincere concerns are handled.

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I would like to tell you how Sister Kate Kelly has helped deepen my appreciation of LDS doctrine and given me hope that I can remain a member of this church.

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I am a 5th-generation member of the church, hailing from a very active family. Nearly 20 years ago, I started to quietly question why women could not have the priesthood. Over these two decades I have studied this issue and tried to make my peace with it. I tried to keep my question a secret because I could not find a safe place to ask or discuss my question, but it continually ate at me.

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However, after Sister Kelly—very bravely—asked the brethren to pray whether women could have the priesthood, I noticed that it became more okay to have the discussions I have been longing to have for 20 years. Now, I know that these discussions might seem threatening to some people, but the discussions I have participated in have been very faithful. They have consisted of people really studying the scriptures, the doctrine, our history. We have learned so much! And, at least in my case, the burden of having this secret question has been lightened. This in conjunction with President Dieter F. Uchtdorf’s talk, “Come, Join with Us,” gave me hope that there was space for someone like me in this church. You don’t realize how important hope is unless you have lived without it.

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I have heard speculation that Sister Kelly is being called into a disciplinary hearing not because of her questioning but, instead, because of her actions. I can understand why such actions seem problematic; I initially was unsure about them myself. However, I read an interview with Chieko Okazaki, conducted in 2005, in which she discussed in detail the difficulties she and the rest of the Relief Society General Presidency had in getting their needs met by the brethren. She said, “Sometimes I think they get so busy that they forget that we are there.”*

If Sister Okazaki had a difficult time getting her concerns addressed, how are the rest of us supposed to have our concerns met? Sometimes it feels like we are left with no other mechanism but “disobedience” to be heard—sometimes you have to wrestle with the angel. That does not mean that mistakes haven’t been made along the way; hindsight is 20/20. But it does mean that until safer, more robust mechanisms are in place for women’s concerns on this and other issues to be heard, it seems like a travesty to punish Sister Kelly for resorting to the only methods that seem to get attention.

*Greg Prince (2012). “There is Always a Struggle”: An Interview with Chieko N. Okazaki. Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought, 45(1), 112-140.

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I am thankful for Sister Kelly’s courage and questioning. She has helped my heart to heal and remain in Mormonism. She has spurred me to deepen my understanding of the priesthood.

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Sister Kelly, her family, you, and the rest of the brethren are in my prayers at this difficult time.

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I have been a ward Relief Society president on four occasions, stake Relief society counsellor twice and Primary and Young Women’s president along with being an ordinance worker in the temple … and I am shattered at what is happening regarding Kate. She has kept me going when I wanted to give up. She gave me hope for the future of the Church. She gave me hope for my daughters and granddaughters staying in the Church. Please do not destroy that hope by punishing her.

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Growing up, I saw how my very intelligent and capable sister chafed at not feeling like a first-class citizen in the Church. I also sensed that boys felt like they were more important than girls. I so long for that all to change, and, as a committed and faithful member, I’ve deeply appreciated the work of Ordain Women in raising awareness and starting conversations that I hope will raise the status of women in the Church.

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As a relatively new convert (joined in early summer of ’13), Kate Kelly has been a source of inspiration for me during the many times when I have felt like the Church and the Church’s culture weren’t welcoming of differing viewpoints. Her continuing faith and dedication and her acceptance by the Church have been comfort and proof that there is room and a place for everyone who loves the gospel. This disciplinary council is so disappointing (and un-Christlike) that my heart just breaks for us all.

My defense against the charge of “apostasy”

Posted by on Jun 21, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

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Since the trial against me on the charge of “apostasy” is being held in absentia, I submitted this letter in my defense for the Bishopric to consider.

My dear friend and mentor Nadine Hansen wrote this brief defending me on the charge of apostasy.

Over 1,000 letters were submitted to my Bishop as evidence on my behalf.

The disciplinary council is proceeding, as scheduled, tomorrow June 22, 7pm EST in Vienna, VA. I will be at this vigil in Salt Lake City. There will also be a vigil held at the church building where the disciplinary council is being held, as well as over 50 vigils in 17 different countries around the world.

Letters in Support of Kate Kelly and Ordain Women, Part 3

Posted by on Jun 21, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

In anticipation of Kate Kelly’s church disciplinary council, Ordain Women asked for letters of support commenting on how Ordain Women had deepened their relationship with the LDS Church, strengthened their faith and given them hope. They will be presented to Kate’s ecclesiastical leaders and Church Headquarters. Over 1,140 letters have been submitted. We’re gratified by the overwhelming response and touched by the sincerity of the messages. OW will publish selected letters each day leading up to the date of the disciplinary council. 

As a missionary in the Philippines I was assigned to a branch where the four previous branch presidents had been excommunicated for various misdeeds. Because of the relatively small size of the branch and the lack of male members, there was a looming possibility that the branch would dissolve and merge with the next closest branch, nearly 30 miles away, making it nearly impossible for faithful members to partake of the sacrament weekly. Having witnessed a branch full of strong, faithful women deal with the pressures of finding worthy males to take the lead, it made my heart ache. I know that God wants all of his children to have access to all blessings available to them. Through Ordain Women I know that these faithful members would have an amazing opportunity to share their love and devotion for Christ. We only share that we are ready and willing for the question to be brought to the Lord through the leaders of the Church. Kate has helped share her true love of Christ and the restored Church through her repeated sharing of her testimony. I am forever grateful for that.

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I am a current High Councilor and former Bishop. I love the Church and serve it with all my heart, might, mind and strength. I believe that we are guided by revelation and that revelations come in response to questions asked. The Word of Wisdom, the First and Second Official Declarations, baptisms for the dead are all examples of glorious revelations received in response to temporal problems or questions. I see a present temporary imbalance in the roles allotted to girls and women which I fully expect will change in response to revelation received. I am grateful to Ordain Women and to Kate Kelly for asking questions in sincere, faithful ways. I join with them in my request that the Brethren seek revelation to know whether women should hold the priesthood. Kate’s example has been one of asking in faith. She has never caused me to waiver. To the contrary, she has been a great example of how to express doubts and concerns in an attitude of faith. It would be a travesty to punish that, but it would be monstrous to cut off her sealing, baptism and saving ordinances.

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Ordain Women has promoted inclusion, encouraged members of the Church to seek personal revelation and prayerfully consider their questions, presented historical evidence for asking the questions they ask, and has only asked that the leadership of the Church share with them whether they have sought revelation regarding female ordination to the priesthood. If I could be there in the room with you on June 22, as a faithful member of this Church, as a sister in Zion, as a woman, as an advocate for love and mercy that does not rob justice, I would ask that you allow Kate Kelly to continue as a member of the Church in good standing. Your council may decide to disown her, but I cannot. I want her here. I want her as my sister in Zion so we can continue to learn and grow together in faith, to strengthen ourselves and then turn to lift others. Please consider whether your thoughts, words, and actions are motivated by fear or love.

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I am not a member of Ordain Women, and at first I was very angry that they existed. But as I considered and pondered on the questions they were asking, I was led to a serious study in the temple and out of it about gender, priesthood, and revelation. I have felt that it is good for my soul and my spirituality to wrestle with some of these questions before the Lord as I ponder on his omniscience and omnipotence – and the further light and knowledge that we are promised to receive. I do not know if women will ever receive the priesthood, but my eyes have been lifted heavenward with hope and faith in a beautiful day in the future when we have more knowledge and understanding than we have today. I may not have joined Ordain Women, or made the same choices they made – but I believe there is room for [Kate] here, right next to me in the Gospel—as a sister I love. She has made me a better Mormon.

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While I do not believe that women should be ordained to the priesthood, I do firmly believe that we should have the right to ask for it if the spirit moves us. For crying out loud, our faith was started by a young boy who dared to question the religions around him! As a person who has struggled finding a place in this faith, I find OW inspiring and faith affirming. Not because I agree but because I am glad so many courageous women love the church enough to express the desires of their heart. These are women who are desiring to be even closer to God and to have a larger role in the building up of the kingdom. How is that a bad thing? And if you tell Kelly that there is no room for her in this church, it feels like you are telling me the same thing. I desperately want to be Mormon. I love my church. Please make room for people who do not fit your ideal vision of what a Mormon should be. Make room for us! Make room for me.

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Ordain Women has inspired me and rejuvenated a testimony of the Restoration that had, frankly, become a little rote and stale over the years. While I am not affiliated with OW and am not sure whether I share the goals of the organization, I admire the faithfulness represented by the men and women who clearly support the prophet as the mouthpiece of the Lord and the only one authorized to receive revelation for the whole church. … But the questions have to be asked first before the answers will come. We are instructed in scripture to ask, to seek, to knock; when the questions are more global than one individual life or sphere of family, it is appropriate for the prophet and apostles to ask on behalf of the church. OW has asked that the question(s) be asked.

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I used to look forward to General Conferences mainly for the chance to “go to church” in my pajamas. The OW movement has inspired me to look forward to GC with renewed faith and hope that, as we heard in April, the Restoration is not finished. … I believe Heavenly Father has meatier things to tell us if we ask in faith. I recognize that the answers may not come immediately or quickly, but I believe that He will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the Kingdom of God. And for the first time in years, I’m excited.

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Inspired from the sidelines by the women and men of OW, my prayers are more fervent and my scripture study more consistent … Building Zion is not easy or mess-free. Please don’t make it harder by cutting off one of its most faithful supporters.

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I met Kate Kelly personally … and was immediately struck by her easy going nature and love for people and the Church. I walked away from my experience with her with a newfound excitement for being a member of this Church. For years I have felt like women needed to be represented more in the higher levels of Church administration—especially after serving a full-time mission at Temple Square. Kate, to me, was such a symbol of hope because she approached the situation delicately and appropriately. She was (and is) the voice of so many women who have feared to speak up in the past and gave me reason to stay in the Church. She helped me recognize that change in institutions is slow and that that was ok. She taught me how to disagree politely and appropriately with the status quo. But most importantly, she taught me how to struggle WITHIN an organization instead of just walking away from it. Excommunicating her would be devastating to all those who struggle.

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When I decided to post my Ordain Women profile, I felt incredible peace and a connection to my Heavenly Parents that I hadn’t felt for a very long time. Kate Kelly is an example of how to remain faithful, ask hard questions, and demonstrate to God that we are willing and ready for further light. I cried tears of heartbreak and frustration when I heard of the disciplinary action against Kate Kelly—not out of some hero worship or misplaced allegiance. I cried because I view her as my sister in the gospel and a faithful, wonderful follower of Christ who is acting on her convictions. It is my prayer that the disciplinary council will reconsider any action against Kate Kelly. I hope you will instead demonstrate that her voice, as well as that of many others joined with hers in prayerfully and peacefully seeking further spiritual light, are not only welcome, but welcomed as full contributors in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

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While I’m not sure where I stand on female ordination, Ordain Women has inspired me to closely examine my faith, and to take greater accountability for what I believe and what I teach my children. This process has led me to a richer connection to the gospel of Jesus Christ and a more fulfilling communion with the saints. I am eternally grateful for this movement. … I will be fasting for Sister Kelly’s priesthood leaders on June 22.

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I do not know if God wants the ordination of women in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. But, I do know that being a part of a community that is asking that question has led me to study and pray more about my role as a woman in the work of the Lord. I have felt more strongly connected to the women in the scriptures. I have been more attentive and thoughtful during my temple attendance. I have prayed more about how I can be a better wife, daughter, sister and friend. Ordain Women has not convinced me that women should be ordained—I believe that revelation must come through the proper authority and confirmation through personal communication with the Lord. However, Ordain Women has made my role as a woman more relevant and caused my testimony to be strengthened.

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The news of the pending disciplinary council that Kate Kelly will be subject to has broken my heart. I may not share all of the same ideas of Ordain Women, but I appreciate so much that the website has offered. It has allowed me to feel that asking questions is okay when still being a practicing member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. I have witnessed the good that has come from it, often in very small ways (such as women praying in General Conference). When I heard the news yesterday, I sat and starred at the beautiful portrait of Christ that is up on my living room wall. I thought about Him, and his love, and His example of all that is good in the world. My experience with Ordain Women has only increased my understanding of love, kindness, empathy, sisterhood, and my role as a member of the Church. She is needed, as well all are. President Dieter Uchtdorf spoke of how there is room for all of us in His Church. The message you are sending me is that there isn’t enough room, and it breaks my heart.

Letters in support of Kate Kelly and Ordain Women, Part 2

Posted by on Jun 20, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

In anticipation of Kate Kelly’s church disciplinary council, Ordain Women asked for letters of support commenting on how Ordain Women had deepened their relationship with the LDS Church, strengthened their faith and given them hope. They will be presented to Kate’s ecclesiastical leaders and Church Headquarters. As of today, over 1,030 letters have been submitted. We’re gratified by the overwhelming response and touched by the sincerity of the messages. OW will publish selected letters each day leading up to the date of the disciplinary council. 

If you feel moved to write a letter, please submit it here. We will stop accepting letters at 5pm today.

I’m a convert to the Church … and a current Bishop. Kate Kelly and Ordain Women have followed the counsel of Church leaders to seek their own personal testimony. They reflect the heritage of the Church, which is based on questioning. They embody that notion of a living church, with a modern day prophet, and modern revelation. Silencing Kate Kelly will be silencing many — myself included

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I haven’t really been involved in the Ordain Women movement, but I definitely do understand where they are coming from, and I do think there need to be measures taken in order for a more equal treatment for both sexes. I think these women have helped many people have hope that differing opinions are ok in the Church, that the most important thing is that we love one another and we strive to treat each other as Christ would. I do not think someone who is a member of the Church and who, out of love and hope for that church, has strived to make changes to improve that church for others should be excommunicated. And I, as a member of this Church fear that many of my close friends and loved ones would leave the Church over such a decision. I hope and pray that those who make this decision will strive to act as Jesus would.

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I have felt like an outsider for a long time. While I’m not a member of OW, I do support them. OW has helped me to know I’m not the only one who feels like women don’t matter in the Church. I am more involved now with the Church because of OW.

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The faith of the women and men who are members of Ordain Women have consistently inspired and uplifted me. I have been profoundly impressed by their testimonies of God, the restoration of the gospel, and the Holy Melchizedek Priesthood. For a while, the only reason I was able to attend church and cling to my own faith was in part BECAUSE of Kate Kelly and the other women and men who support and identify with Ordain Women.

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The issues and discussions brought out by OW have been positively instrumental in strengthening my testimony and making me a better woman, wife, mother, sister and friend. They have inspired me to be more open-minded and loving like our Savior. They have inspired me to read the scriptures more regularly and pray more fervently. They have inspired me to study the history of the marvelous women in our church, as well as the priesthood. They have inspired me to be a better disciple of Christ. I greatly admire the efforts of all OW members to reverently petition our church leaders to seek more light and knowledge on very serious and sensitive issues.

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I have found enormous comfort in OW’s cause of seeking further revelation from the prophet and advocating for equality within the church governing structure and view it as one way as members of the church we can be “anxiously engaged in a good cause.” I have felt the spirit through writing my OW profile and when gathering with my brothers and sisters to wait patiently and reverently in temple square as we were turned away from two priesthood sessions of conference. I feel like Kate Kelly has reminded me of the call our Savior made to remember the “least of these,” surely women who feel hurt by the current structure of the church are included in that category. I have questioned many times if the church wants someone like me, and the fact that the church had not taken disciplinary action against Kate Kelly made me feel that maybe there was a space for me too. My testimony has been strengthened by Kate’s testimony, her courage and strength.

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OW has helped me, a lifelong, devoted member of the Church to stay in the Church. As I have struggled with gender equity questions the past several years, OW gave me hope that Heavenly Father would hear our prayers, our pain and our pleas for change in the way women are treated and seen in the church. I respect Kate Kelly so much having the courage to speak the words that so many of us hold in our hearts and yet have been too afraid to speak for fear of rejection and discipline. I am heartbroken that her church membership is on the line because she used her voice. Her faith and abilities are such an attribute to the Church. I feel like the Church is sending a message, not just to Kate Kelly, but to all of us who have questions that we are not wanted in the Church. It hurts my heart. And it angers me that the Church that I love, that I have devoted my life to, spent the last 18 years raising my children in, married my husband in the temple in, does not want me or care about me. It’s the opposite of what I imagine the Savior doing. He would listen.

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I have struggled with the inequality of women in the Church for many years. It has been painful to see the talents of myself and so many women squandered by the Church because we are women. When Ordain Women was formed, I finally felt that there was a place for me still, that I could hope for a more equal future, and my testimony was strengthened anew. Kate’s peaceful advocacy and unwavering devotion to my church make an indelible imprint on my heart and I knew I should stay and work and faithfully agitate.

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I am an active Mormon, who spends time in service to members of my ward. I am a BYU graduate. I am a returned missionary. I am married in the temple to a lovely man. I have been in every kind of presidency open to women in the church. I have 3 children, all young but active in the church. I never speak of feminism or women’s ordination at church. … I try to be a good Christian and a good Mormon. Sometimes I fail at both.

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I speak on behalf of Kate Kelly. I do not know her personally, but her insistence that women have a place at the Mormon table has been profoundly comforting to me as a member of the Church. I am deeply concerned about the status of women in the Church, and I believe that she has been brave, positive, and scripturally based in all of her public statements. Furthermore, I believe that she has a deep testimony of the church. I am grateful for her courage in speaking out on these issues.

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I don’t agree with everything she says or does. But this church court is folly. Please think of what you are saying to women like me if you excommunicate or disfellowship her. You are saying that our concerns are apostasy. You are telling us to keep our mouths shut (when, in fact, most of us already do). You are telling us we are unwanted–that it is better to leave than to make our thoughts known. I wish I could say this in a more articulate way, but words fail me because of my deep sadness. Do not fail the sisters of the Church. Speak to Sister Kelly in love, bless her, and make this church court go away. Be aware that many of us are watching. Please let us all feel that our concerns matter and that our diversity is wanted. Do not drive us away. The world is also watching.

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Since I was a young teenager, I have been very aware of the gender inequality in the Church. Quickly, I learned that this was not a subject you talked about out loud. For years I held it all in, continuing to see inequalities, abuses and women’s full potentials being overlooked. I started getting very bitter and angry because I didn’t feel like I had a voice or a place to talk about these issues. Even though I had a strong testimony of Jesus Christ, I felt like there wasn’t a place for me in the LDS Church. Kate Kelly and Ordain Women gave me a place to talk about these kinds of issues. She taught me how to talk about my issues in a kind, loving and faithful way. She taught me that I had a voice and I didn’t need to be afraid. She brought me together with other faithful women who strengthen me and keep me going back to church week after week while the gender inequality changes at a snail’s pace. I believe Kate Kelly belongs in this church and it would be worse off without her.

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Ordain Women gave me the opportunity to share my voice. It is a place of support when working towards building a foundation where women and girls feel valued and equal within and out of the Church. It has helped me reconcile hurt feelings that I have fostered since childhood, of being a biracial female, and a member of the Church. I have been a witness to unjust works and treatment within the church and by its members, and Ordain Women gave me hope that those who have been abused … would have a place of comfort … I have a testimony of the restored Gospel of Jesus Christ, I have a testimony that women, and girls are more capable and valuable in the works and gospel of Jesus Christ then previously lead to believe.

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I am a return missionary, a temple recommend holding member, a Sunday School teacher, a Bishop’s wife, a mother of two, and a feminist. One of the most hopeful signs that my beloved church was growing and maturing was the fact that men and women were opening up public conversations about difficult questions and petitioning church leaders on matters that may well be open to change (just as the persistent widow petitioned the judge in the New Testament parable) and were NOT being threatened with church discipline. It felt like there was room for many colors of faith, for many parts in the body of Christ, including me. I cried today when I read the news of the actions being taken against Kate Kelly. Please. Surely there is room for persistent petitioners seeking further light and knowledge from the Lord on behalf of His church within a framework of love and faith.

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One day in my Valiant primary class we were discussing the idea that we each have individual missions to achieve on the Earth. I spoke up and said that I felt my mission was to work for women’s equality in the church. … I have faith in God and hope that someday women will be ordained to the priesthood. I am also a faithful, active Latter-day Saint with a current temple recommend. I do not believe that the public expression of my ideas or Kate’s are grounds for being expelled from the Church. In a sense, the Church is responsible for the creation of Ordain Women by not listening to the concerns of women for the past forty+ years. Given the lack of transparency and no system for open dialogue in the church organization, I don’t know how women are to voice their concerns and be heard without taking public action. We are a church that was founded on asking questions and seeking truth, and we have been told that the restoration is ongoing. I am inspired by Ordain Women to continue to ask questions faithfully, and hope it is true that the heavens are still open.

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I have been a member of the Church my whole life. My ancestors on my father’s side joined the Church during the time of Joseph Smith. I have served a mission, taught at the MTC, attended BYU, married in the temple. I have been an active participant and dedicated my talents and energies to the Church my entire life.

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I have also felt alone at Church. I have felt misunderstood. For me the Ordain Women group has been a place where I have found fellowship, strength and Christ-like love with fellow members. I have found understanding and tolerance. It has helped me to feel that there is a place for me within the Church.

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I have been heartened, inspired and touched by the Spirit as I’ve seen strong, faithful women – including Sister Kate Kelly – who desire to participate more fully in the work of salvation bravely risk the scorn of their fellow Church members and the specter of Church discipline to do what we have been told to do over and over and over again: ask, seek, and knock. Ordain Women has been a faith-strengthening tool to me. Knowing that I’m not the only one with questions and desires for further light and knowledge on these topics has given me the hope to remain strong and active in the Church.

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Watching Ordain Women has made me resolve to be a better husband, a better Priesthood holder, and a better Christian. I have reexamined beliefs that I took for granted, and in the end, I did not reject my beliefs but found myself strengthened in Christ. I want nothing more than to live in Zion, and I find myself more and more each day wishing to reach out and help my brothers and sisters who need me.

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I have so much respect for the members of Ordain Women, who have the courage to share their questions and concerns and have faith that they will receive answers to those questions … They give me the courage to ask my own questions. They help me to realize that my thoughts and feelings matter to my Heavenly Father, and that He has given me the ability to discern right and wrong for myself. They have made me believe that maybe I can stand up for what I believe too. I love the gospel, and because Ordain Women exists, I have hope for my future, and the future of my family, in a gospel with more truth and more people willing to seek it out.

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I was at Temple Square this past April. I was apprehensive about attending because I don’t know where I stand on women’s ordination, but I do know that there are some cultural changes the Church can/should make to allow women more equal participation in the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I heard Kate bear her testimony and I felt the spirit. Her ideas are uncomfortable to consider at best, but so was the Word of Wisdom, tithing, and many other Church doctrines we hold dear today. I know that Jesus is the Christ and the head of this church. I also know that he wants us to seek answers to the questions we have. The Ordain Women organization has pushed me to truly seek my Father in Heaven through prayer and scripture. I have yet to receive and answer for myself, but I know that it will come whatever it is. I have drawn closer to my Father in Heaven because of Ordain Women. As I said before, I don’t support all of their ideas, but how can prompting others to prayerfully seek out personal revelation and petitioning our prophets for general revelation ever be considered apostasy?